Past, present, future

~the past is a history, the future a mystery and the present, a gift. Which is why we call it present...

 Let's say, you just lost your loved one last year(touch wood). People is milling around, comforting you. Asking you not to dwell in the past and concentrate on the future. If I'm the one comforting you, I wouldn't say that. I would call you to remember the past. Just don't think of it as something negative. Think it as something positive.

  Seriously, ask yourself if you really want to forget the past. Wouldn't you feel better going sad and down? That's what people mostly feel when something sad has happened. But they force themselves to forget about it. Do you know? If you try forgetting something in your brain when your heart and soul wants you to remeber it, you might kill yourself. Point is, you should dwell on the past, but take it as lesson to you to continue living for the better. You should appreciate the present. Just like you will appreciate someone who gives you a gift. And try not to pressure on the future. As my motto goes,

"Go together with life, don't rush yourself to get faster than life"
  Life shold be appreciated. God create many obstacles on our way. Just to test how we get through it. Sometimes, we should treat life a bit like a dare. Daringness to face circumstances, daringness to come out of it and continue with life...